I know some people that are not so fortunate. I have heard stories about maids of honor trying to sleep with the groom before the wedding, about friends that call their "besties" husband a dog and a cheater. Friends that call their married friends fools for getting married, friends that actually do sleep with their friends husbands and friends that try to sleep with their friends. I've heard about wives who have friends that encourage them to stay out all night and cheat. I've heard it all.
And these are friends?
Who needs enemies then?
Before I got married, all of the few friends that I had were single in the, not married sense of the word. They had boyfriends, but they weren't married. In addition to that, not all of them were happy that I was getting married wither. Sure, I didn't have friends that were trying to sleep with my husband or me for that matter. Thank God. But I did have those that I considered to be in my circle were extremely concerned that my husband would lose interest in me and that all men cheated, including mine. For a while, I actually allowed those voices to absorb my brain and affect my thinking. I began to doubt the love that I had for my hubby, and in turn, begin to lose faith in my judgment.
That's when I decided to pray and ask the Lord what it is that was best for my life and what He wanted me to do. And I came across this scripture that I heard my Bishop quote on more than one occasion:
Proverbs 18:24a
"One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin..."
(NIV)
Do you have unreliable friends? Let's take a second to think about it.
~Do your friends speak well of your husband and marriage in general?
~When you need to talk, do your friends listen objectively?
~Do your friends encourage you to remain strong and faithful in your marriage?
~Do your friends speak well of you?
If the answers to all of these questions, or any of these questions is no, you may need to reevaluate your circle.
Let's face it; everyone's husband is not their best friend. I would like to say otherwise, but my husband isn't mine. At least, not yet. And even if he was, no one will understand some of the things that you go through like another woman or a best friends. I have no idea where I would be in my life without mine. She's amazing. She encourages, speaks, listens and sometimes she doesn't listen. She'll tell me to go and talk to my husband. These are the type of friends that you need in your corner. And God is the other half of this verse; the friend that "sticks closer than any brother." (v. 24b) He understands your situation and knows what to do to fix it, or not fix it. After all, He created your husband and He created you. So He knows better than anyone.
However, there is nothing like a good BFF. I know I wouldn't trade mine for anything in the world. If you have friends and they aren't unreliable, they encourage you in your marriage and in God, they respect your husband and your marriage and they love you unconditionally, hold on to them and cherish them. Most likely you'll never find another them.
So what about your friends???
"One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin..."
(NIV)
Do you have unreliable friends? Let's take a second to think about it.
~Do your friends speak well of your husband and marriage in general?
~When you need to talk, do your friends listen objectively?
~Do your friends encourage you to remain strong and faithful in your marriage?
~Do your friends speak well of you?
If the answers to all of these questions, or any of these questions is no, you may need to reevaluate your circle.
Let's face it; everyone's husband is not their best friend. I would like to say otherwise, but my husband isn't mine. At least, not yet. And even if he was, no one will understand some of the things that you go through like another woman or a best friends. I have no idea where I would be in my life without mine. She's amazing. She encourages, speaks, listens and sometimes she doesn't listen. She'll tell me to go and talk to my husband. These are the type of friends that you need in your corner. And God is the other half of this verse; the friend that "sticks closer than any brother." (v. 24b) He understands your situation and knows what to do to fix it, or not fix it. After all, He created your husband and He created you. So He knows better than anyone.
However, there is nothing like a good BFF. I know I wouldn't trade mine for anything in the world. If you have friends and they aren't unreliable, they encourage you in your marriage and in God, they respect your husband and your marriage and they love you unconditionally, hold on to them and cherish them. Most likely you'll never find another them.
So what about your friends???
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