Super Problem-Solver Dude

When people ask me to describe my husband, the only thing that I can think of is that he is a man's man. He goes to work and takes care of his home. He's tall dark and handsome. He hardly ever shows emotion. Period. If you don;t know him, then there's not much more to him. He's the kind of guy that you think of when you hear the term "man's man".
My husband doesn't deal too much in feelings. I've seen him cry around 5 or 6 times and I've known him for almost 11 years. I heard he cried at our wedding, but it was when I first started walking down the aisle. He didn't want me to see it. Sucker.
We laugh a lot and discuss a lot, but when it comes to emotions, he checks out of the conversation. That isn't just with me; its with everyone. He can't handle the touchy-feely talk. tears make him nervous and all out crying? Well, it causes him to shut down. Literally. I think if he could disappear when women start to cry, he would. Especially if that woman is me.
I don't think its because he doesn't care. Actually, I do believe that it is the exact opposite. He's a problem solver and if I cry, then he sees that as him not doing a good job as my husband.

Ephesians 5:23
"For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church."(NLT)

Some men are natural problem-solvers. They don't understand talking for the fun of it. They can't always comprehend discussing feelings. If you present them with an issue, they want to solve it without having a lot of extra conversation. That is the natural leader within them. The Bible says that a husband is the head of the house. That's a leadership position. Leaders make decisions and solve issues. They delegate. They manage. They discuss. They oversee. They talk with the express purpose of making whatever the problem is better.
I think we as wives have a difficult time seeing past our emotions. That's okay. We are the more nurturing half of the relationship. We listen when our husbands rant and rub their backs when they have bad days. We show outward expressions of love. We're emotional. Ladies, we are different. We are not men and our men are not women (Thank God!). If that were the case, we wouldn't have such a difficult time understanding them; we could just think like us! God made us His way, and we are different for a reason. If you want to understand your husband better, ask the one that created him!
Anyhoo, your man cares about you so much that when you bring an issue to him that is bothering you,  whether it be about your marriage or not, he wants to help you solve it. Its his natural reaction. He's a born leader, When you start to talk about your son needing clothes because he grew out of all of them, he's silently figuring out a way to juggle the bills and make room for a sudden expense. When you're talking about some loud-mouth coworker in the cubicle next to you that always gives your grief about absolutely nothing, he's trying to figure out what he can tell you to do about it. And even if he doesn't give you an immediate response, believe me, he's working on it. His wheels are turning overtime because he wants to help. He needs to. That's the kind of man God designed him to be just for you.

So the next time you get frustrated because you have an issue and you just want your husband to listen, don't get mad and shut down. Tell him you need to talk, but you just want him to listen. Then, talk. He'll listen. He's still going to try to figure out how to fix it, but he won't interrupt. As a matter of fact, he might just love the fact that you trust him enough to talk to him about it. And when you're done, thank him for listening. He'll appreciate that one too...