"A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken." (NLT)
I decided to start off this post with the Word so you can see just how important it is for you marriage.
People get married for a lot of different reasons. They are tired of being alone, they fell in love, they feel like its something you should do at a certain point in their lives, they want to have children, they want to break on their taxes... Don't act like it has never happened! I remember before my brother fell in love and got married, he would say "Marriage is a business arrangement." I thought this was not only funny, but totally absurd. Business arrangement?!? I knew that when I got married, it would be totally and completely for love. Not money, not loneliness... None of that. And that's what I did. I got married for love.
Once I had been married for a while, I realized that my brother was not totally wrong in his evaluation about marriage.
Don't get me wrong. I still believe that people should be in love when they get married. I believe that they should be totally in love with God, totally in love with themselves, and love their spouses. I believe that true love will be a reigning factor in any relationship, because what you do for someone depends on your level of love, respect and dedication to God and their loved ones.
However I do also believe that marriage is all business.
You and your husband should have goals for your marriage. Yes, goals for your careers and finances, your homes and your children. But you should also have goals for your marriage itself. Everything that has life must grow. Look at nature. Plants, animals, children... Every living thing grows because of the life that has God has put into it. So with nature, so with your marriage. It is a living thing, and it needs to be fed and nurtured so that it may grow and prosper as well.We should set goals for our marriages so that we can know what direction it will go. We will know what we are working for.
You and your husband are building and you should be building together, on the same foundation. You are building a life together, you're building trust, you're building a family. A legacy. You want your children to have the best, and you and your husband deserve the best. You want to be blessed so you can be blessing to others. That will take teamwork.
Working together is a necessary part of marriage. Whether one spouse works, or both work, working together to make your family what God has preordained you all to be take work, togetherness, patience.
When you got married you weren't a single person anymore. You became a part of something. A unit. A couple. A family. Ecclesiastes 5:12 says that one person alone can be defeated. But you aren't alone anymore. You have a big, strong, manly man whose desire is to take care of you and see you as happy as he can. And if he's big and strong, then together you are stronger and the two of you together with God are more than conquerors (Romans 8:31,37).
You must remember that, no matter how much you argue, fuss and fight, you are on the same side. You are working together to achieve and exceed all the goals that you set.
You're a team.
And since team work is what it will take to make your marriage's dreams work...
Then work together and make the dream work!!!
2 What Do You Think?:
This is exactly what i needed to hear. My husband and i was just talking about team work yesterday and i was feeling like we werent a team, but after talking to him and a couple of friends about it, i realize that we are a team, its more about communicating what we are doing, and talking out our plans together so that we are on the same page. Thanks for your wisdom!!
Thank you so much for reading. I'm glad you enjoyed it :)
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