How Much Are Your Goodies Worth??? (#WifeWorthy Diaries)

So, I was listening to the radio the other day, and heard something that I thought was worthy of a post. I get inspiration from everywhere, praise God.

Anyway, a young woman was talking about becoming a "Born- Again Virgin". While this did catch my attention, this is not the topic of the post (thank God because I don't agree with it at all). But, the young lady's explanation for the topic of conversation did have me nodding my head.

She was basically talking about how this character had a lot of unsuccessful relationships because she was not paying attention to the type of man that she attracted; her focus was being in love. She would bed all of these losers, convincing herself that they were worthy her time, talent and treasure, only to find out later that she was living a lie. The guy would either use her, cheat on her or break her heart, and, after several (and several more) unsuccessful attempts at love, she "revirginized" herself.

Yes, I know that is not really a word. But if a virgin can be born again, certainly I can make up my own word.

Her interview was short, but it stayed with me for the rest of the day. Even though she was speaking of a fictional character that she will play on television (did I forget to mention that?), I believe that all forms of fiction is based on fact. And the fact of the matter is, too many women are focused on love and finding the right man and getting married before their biological clock falls off the bedside table. We are in search of a high that we will never get if we keep going the way that we are going. You know what happens when drug addicts keep chasing the highest high? They overdose. And, forgive me for being blunt, but you, my dear, are dangerously close to a man overdose, because you've been getting high on the cheap stuff.

Know your value.

Proverbs 31:10

"Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?

She is more precious than rubies."

Okay now, stay with me because I tend to ramble on, but I promise that I have a point.

First of all, hopping from man to man is not of God because the scripture clearly says that a man "finds" his wife. I know you probably hear that a lot, but I want you to really listen to it. Searching for the right man is not being found, its looking for. If you are looking for the you take what you find, not what is worthy of you. God created you and you are extremely valuable; much to valuable to be giving away to every Raheem, Devin and Marquis (or whatever their names are).

Secondly, if your ambition is to be someone's wife, and you're out patrolling for men, you're going about it all wrong. Especially if you are sleeping with all of them. One thing that I did listen to my elders about when I was younger is that no man wants a loose woman. You cannot sleep around and think that's going to be okay with a man that wants to be with you. Besides the fact that sex outside of the confines of marriage is against the will of God for your life, it's dangerous. Sexually transmitted diseases, infections, pregnancy scares... it's too much. I say this phrase a lot, and it may seem a little crass, but I want you to understand the seriousness of my message: Keep it in your pants. It might be hard at first, but you'll get over it. And trust me, when you do abstain from sex, you will weed out the fools and be ready for the one that wants to change your name, not just your underwear.

And lastly, have you checked the retail value of rubies lately? I did a little investigation, and the price od rubies can be gauged between $3,000 and $15,000 a carat, depending on the cut. Now, let me ask you a couple of questions:

*Do you have $3,000 to be throwing around?

*If you did have something worth that much money, would you let everyone put their hands on it or would you put it up for safe keeping?

I think you see where I'm going with this.

God allowed the word "ruby" to be used specifically in this scripture. That's because they were extremely rare and sought after during the time that this passage was written. Not too many people saw red gemstones back then, and hardly anyone owned them but the richest of the rich. You were a wealthy, important, influential man if you had a ruby in your possession.

And the same rings true today.

Value your ruby, ladies. Cherish it. Realize that it's appraisal value is much more than what you have been offered for it. Every scrub doesn't get to touch it. It's not meant to hold several men's fingerprints. Allow God to wipe them all away so your value can be restored to mint condition and you can become someone's treasure.

You need to realize how much your goodies are worth...