Get Ready for the Good Stuff!!!

Has your marriage been under a cloud of hurt and disappointment for a little more than a long while?
* Have you and your husband been at each other's throats for a some time now?
* Are you tired of climbing mountains and tripping over obstacles?
* Do you feel like you are reaching your breaking point?
Well, this post might be just thing you are looking for...

Haggai 2:9

 

" 'The future glory of this Temple will be greater than it's past glory,

Says the Lord Heaven's Armies.

And in this place I will bring peace.

I, the Lord of Heaven's Armies, have spoken.' "

People will tell you that the above listed questions are reasons to walk away for your husband:
* You're young and beautiful; you can find love again!
* There is no reason for you to stay in a marriage that makes you soooo unhappy!
* Girl, if he can't get it right with you, you can find someone else that will!
* You can do better...
But can you???
First of all, let me reiterate (because I know you've already heard it) the fact that no one should be telling you what you should or should not be doing where your marriage is concerned. The only three people that should totally be involved in my relationship are my, my husband and God. Other people can have an opinion, but it is best if you tell them to keep it to themselves. It has no place in your mind, right or wrong.
Secondly, the better always comes after the bad. That's just how it goes! You have bad times and bad days, you have times when you have your hand on the door knob, and times when you are packing his luggage because you want him to leave. But those times are the making times.
If everything was perfect at all times, you would have no appreciation for how good it can be, and it can definitely be good. The times when you are the lowest are great, because when you rise up, you can see how far God brought you.
I once heard the story of a very well-known couple who pastor a large church together. They have no problem saying that they were sitting in divorce court about to sign the papers to dissolve their marriage, when God intervened and told them that was not what they were meant to do.
Wow!
In divorce court, pen in hand. That means that they went through all of the arguments, fights, dismissals, slammed doors, sleepless nights and angry outbursts before they called their lawyers and started setting dates. God allowed them to go almost all they way before He said "enough".
They had to know the bad before they could see the good.
It's time to get ready to receive the good. The bad has been ruling your marriage and your attitude toward your husband for way too long. This is how the process of transformation goes:

 

Outlook + Attitude + Language + Actions= Transformation

 

Change your outlook first; what are you looking at and focusing on. If you focus on the bad in your husband and marriage, you will only see bad. Try to have a big-picture view when your relationship with your husband is concerned.

Next comes your attitude: How are you responding to your man? Is it in anger and bitterness? If it is, that may be the reason it's been so hard.

Thirdly, your language. The first word that needs to go is "divorce", followed by "separation", "can't", "won't" and any other negativity you've been bringing. And don't call each other names please. PLEASE...

And lastly, change the approach you take with your husband. Consider some of the things he complains about: cook a few of his favorite meals, try to make sure the house is a little more tidy, stop wearing that scarf to bed every night and stop saying no to sex. Just a few suggestions.

The good is on the way, but preparing for it so you won't mess it up is a big key to maintaining it when it gets there. God is bringing peace, restoration and love back into your relationship, but you have to move on the faith that you have in Him.

So do your part and let Him do the rest. Just remember the old adage:

What's to come is better than what's been...