But What If??? (#WifeWorthy Diaries)

So, contrary to popular belief, I was sexually active before I got married.
Insert shocked expression here...
In fact, I had a seven year old daughter, and was pregnant with my youngest daughter when my husband and I got married. So, I know how it feels to be a woman that has hormones, feelings and desires.
I get it.
I also know that God has some pretty clear rules about fornication, which is sex before marriage.

1 Corinthians 7:2-3

"Now regarding the questions you asked in your letter.

Yes, it is good to abstain from sexual relations.

But because there is so much sexual immorality,

Each man should have his own wife,

And each woman should have her own husband."

 

 

I used to be the woman that knew what God said about something, but understood what the ways of the world were saying:

"I mean, it's cool not to have sex and all, but, what if I get married and don't like having sex with my husband. Am I supposed to spend the rest of my life with someone that doesn't satisfy me sexually???
Well, there are a few other ways to look at it, but no other way to do it.

I'm sorry to say that I was wrong, and if you are a #WifeWorthy woman that feels like this now, you are wrong to. We cannot compromise ourselves for a few minutes of temporary gratification. Let's just say, for instance, you dated quite a few guys before you got married; maybe 4 or 5. If you had sex with 4 or 5 guys to find out if you were sexually compatible, you could go on like that forever. How many compromises are you going to make in the name of sex?

And, what if you like having sex with them, but something else with the relationship doesn't work out? That's adding more people to your list that you are compromising your virtue, as well as your relationship with God for.

I know, I know. I sound like a hypocrite. I did it. Who am I to say that you shouldn't do it as well?

I am a woman that got married BECAUSE she was pregnant. I didn't have the option to make sure that my relationship with my husband was right, and we had to work through issues AFTER we got married that we could have spent time working on those things INSTEAD OF having sex.

The bottom line is, if you are believing God that the man you are in relationship with is your husband, or still believing God to reveal you to your husband, you are worth the wait. And if God will send him to you, you all will be compatible in every way.

AND, if you weren't having sex, you would have no reference point for what was good sex and what was bad sex. BECAUSE YOU WEREN'T HAVING SEX!
It's not possible to become a virgin a second time. Once that ship has sail, it shall never return. But, if you have the desire to live the way the Lord wants you to, you can always repent and be forgiven for premarital sex. You can start over! God is indeed a forgiving and loving God and He will meet you right where you are.
But what if he leaves? But what if he decides he doesn't want to wait? But what if he starts to cheat? But what if we break up? Then darling, he's not the man for you. No man is worth your virtue, your disobedience to God and the defiling of your body. Love yourself more than that man.

You are a #WifeWorthy woman, and you are worth the wait. And the man that is truly meant for you and sent for you will agree with God...