Let Him Do It!!!

I'm not ashamed to say that one of my favorite past times is watching television. Not the current sporting events or reality shows, but the reruns of old comedies that are between 10 and 30 years old. I am easily entertained, I admit, but I am also a sucker for a good laugh. I know that some of the good old shows that I used to watch growing up are a guaranteed laugh, and I need that sometimes.
While watching one of my favorites, a wife was mad at her husband because she said he never did anything helpful around the house. He didn't help her with their daughter, or do the laundry or cook. His reply to her was, "Because you always tell me I'm doing it wrong take over."
This caused me to think about my own husband. He very rarely helps me with anything either. When he dresses our boys, its usually because I have laid everything out for him, from the underwear to the outfit and even the brush for their hair! I only recall him cleaning our home once, and I wasn't there so I cannot actually prove he did it with his own two hands. I let him cook a few times, but the last time he did, he used a metal mixing bowl to cook rice in and all of the food was the same color, brown, and used every pot and pan in the house. No joke.
I realize that s the woman of the house, I have a system. It might not make any sense to anyone else, but it works for me. When I allow my husband to help me, it makes me anxious because he messes up my system. But I have also realized that I cannot complain if he tries to help.
At lease he's trying. You weren't always perfect either, you know.

Matthew 7:1

"Do not judge others, and you will not be judged."

 

I wasn't always the cleaning machine that I am now. I wasn't always as handy with a skillet and spatula as I am now. I had to start from the bottom, mistakes and all. Sometimes I honestly feel like my kids and I are growing up together. We make mistakes and get better.

The same goes for our husbands.

Some of our husbands have been married before, but they are still learning. They have to do things right this time. Our first-time husbands are learning as well. When you learn, you mess up before you get it right. We can't judge our men for their mistakes because, 9 times out of 10, they have no clue what they are doing anyway. They're winging it.

As much as it may hurt to do, let that man put mismatched clothes on the baby. Let him turn all of the white socks pink. Let him burn the dinner rolls. Laugh at him, throw them away, and then show him how to do it right. It will help you because eventually, you'll get a very well-deserved break. And it will help him because, well, he's grown! He needs to learn how to do it anyway.

Try to keep the frustrated yelling to a minimum, and let him do it... He might not do it your way, but if you let him do it, it can't get any worse. Teach him and he can teach others.
Let him do it...