Find Your Way Back...

Have you ever been lost?
Thank God for GPS, seriously. I have the worst sense of direction and hate going places alone. I get so turned around and frustrated that I get overwhelmed, ready to cry and sometimes ready to go back home.
Round and round. Turn down the wrong street. Read the map or directions wrong. No street signs. Bad weather. Night time. Frustration. Screaming. Tears...
Then, all of a sudden, I'm right back on the right path. It's kind of weird. I spend all that time freaking out, just to find my way right back to where I was supposed to be.
I hope that your sense of direction when you travel is a lot better than mine. But, more than that, I hope that your sense of direction in your marriage is excellent as well.
People grow and so do marriages. It's a journey. Not a race, where you are trying to beat a few people to the end, but a journey. The terrain changes, the weather changes, even you change when you go on long treks. As you go along, you learn things along the way, or at least, you should. And while we are trekking, we start off with our husbands, going along at the same pace. We keep in step for a while and then we trip over rocks and climb mountains, which may leave him in the lead sometimes and us in the lead other times. We may get so lost that we can't even see our husbands anymore.
But we have to know that its always to our benefit to find our way back to each other.

Romans 14:1 & 2

Welcome with open arms fellow believers who don’t
see things the way you do.

And don’t jump all over them every time they do
or say something  you don’t agree with

—even when it seems that they are strong on opinions
 but weak in the faith department.

 Remember, they have their own history to deal with.

Treat them gently.

We should make up our minds to journey together. It may be hard at first, but if we put our minds to it and work together with our husbands, we can hold hands and stay in step together, like an extended double potato sack race without all the hopping around. We fall together, we run together, be brave the elements together. And during those times when we are too far ahead to be seen or our husbands are too far ahead for us to see, we remain patient and understanding. Jumping to conclusions don't help any aspect of progress. Neither do temper tantrums, for that matter. Be happy when your husband makes progress in his individual life. Cheer him on like you want him to do for you. Part of working together is anticipating the next move of your teammate.
If you and your husband seem to be traveling journeys, get together and figure out how to get back to each other. Always remember the saying: "The race is not given to the swift or the strong, but the one that endures 'til the end". It's not about who gets there first; it's about taking the journey together. If you get lost, don't stay lost.
Find your way back to each other...

Chase After Him for a Change...

As you all know, I get most of my topics from personal observations. I spend quite a bit of time listening to their wives talk about their husbands and lately I've been hearing about husbands feeling unattractive because their wives don't pursue them and make them feel wanted.
Forgive me in advance for rolling my eyes...
I find it very interesting that a man can feel unwanted when they make such a big deal about being the hunter during the courting process. I've heard men complain about women that are too hard to get and women that are too easy to get. I've heard them say that they like the chase but also like the reward. I have not, however, heard a man say that they feel undesirable. But, I guess there is a first time for everything...
Anyway, your husband doesn't want you to be too clingy, but he doesn't want to run marathons to trying to catch you either. It seems like its complicated, and many of us don't have time for complicated. We need to make things as simple as possible. So what is the happy medium? What can we do to make our husbands feel like we desire them without turning into a leech?
This is one place that the world will actually come in handy...

1 Corinthians 7:34b

 "But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities

and how to please her husband."

I know I use this scripture a lot. As a matter of fact, it's the theme for us Insane Wives. A married woman can be saved, sanctified and filled with the Holy Ghost, but she has to take her mind off the church when it comes to pleasing her husband. Now, when I say that we should pay attention to what the world is doing, I don't necessarily mean that we should start swinging from chandeliers and buy stripper poles (unless that's something that you and your husband have agreed on). What I'm saying is, think about some of the things that might be current and used these days:

*Send him a sexy text message to let him know what you may want to get into when you see him later.
*Inbox him and act like a stranger trying to pick him up. Of course, let him know it's you so he won't think some strange woman is trying to get his goodies, but a little role playing never hurt anybody.
*Record a 30 second video and email it to him. Just make sure that you send it to his private email, and put in the subject "For Your Eyes Only!!!" This can cause some controversy if it's opened on the company server.

There are a plethora of other options from romantic to naughty. The resources are next to endless, so use your imagination or hit up Google Search. It doesn't matter what you do, as long as your husband knows that you love him, you think he's sexy and he's on your mind. He needs affection just as much as you do, even if he acts like he doesn't.
Chase him for a change...

Let Him Do It!!!

I'm not ashamed to say that one of my favorite past times is watching television. Not the current sporting events or reality shows, but the reruns of old comedies that are between 10 and 30 years old. I am easily entertained, I admit, but I am also a sucker for a good laugh. I know that some of the good old shows that I used to watch growing up are a guaranteed laugh, and I need that sometimes.
While watching one of my favorites, a wife was mad at her husband because she said he never did anything helpful around the house. He didn't help her with their daughter, or do the laundry or cook. His reply to her was, "Because you always tell me I'm doing it wrong take over."
This caused me to think about my own husband. He very rarely helps me with anything either. When he dresses our boys, its usually because I have laid everything out for him, from the underwear to the outfit and even the brush for their hair! I only recall him cleaning our home once, and I wasn't there so I cannot actually prove he did it with his own two hands. I let him cook a few times, but the last time he did, he used a metal mixing bowl to cook rice in and all of the food was the same color, brown, and used every pot and pan in the house. No joke.
I realize that s the woman of the house, I have a system. It might not make any sense to anyone else, but it works for me. When I allow my husband to help me, it makes me anxious because he messes up my system. But I have also realized that I cannot complain if he tries to help.
At lease he's trying. You weren't always perfect either, you know.

Matthew 7:1

"Do not judge others, and you will not be judged."

 

I wasn't always the cleaning machine that I am now. I wasn't always as handy with a skillet and spatula as I am now. I had to start from the bottom, mistakes and all. Sometimes I honestly feel like my kids and I are growing up together. We make mistakes and get better.

The same goes for our husbands.

Some of our husbands have been married before, but they are still learning. They have to do things right this time. Our first-time husbands are learning as well. When you learn, you mess up before you get it right. We can't judge our men for their mistakes because, 9 times out of 10, they have no clue what they are doing anyway. They're winging it.

As much as it may hurt to do, let that man put mismatched clothes on the baby. Let him turn all of the white socks pink. Let him burn the dinner rolls. Laugh at him, throw them away, and then show him how to do it right. It will help you because eventually, you'll get a very well-deserved break. And it will help him because, well, he's grown! He needs to learn how to do it anyway.

Try to keep the frustrated yelling to a minimum, and let him do it... He might not do it your way, but if you let him do it, it can't get any worse. Teach him and he can teach others.
Let him do it...