Is My Husband a Priority???

Okay so, if you haven't already heard about the husband who sent his wife a spreadsheet proving his sexual deprivation, please click the link and read it before we go on:
http://goo.gl/VIyJDJ
Where do I begin? Sigh....
He may not have gone about this the right way, but he got his message across.
The man is hungry and not being fed.
First of all, let me start off by saying that I understand the plight of the insane wife. I understand how difficult it is to handle a household. I have multiple children, a business that I am trying to getting off and running, a household that demands my total attention, ministry duties, self duties, and my husband. I know how it seems as though we could benefit greatly from a 24 to may 26 or even 30 hour day. I know how hard it is to get in the mood when your husband hardly showers or acts like you have developed invisibility powers while the "most important game of the season" is on. I realize that you've needed to talk and all he is interested in is passing this level on his video game. I know it hurts you've all but begged for a date night, but he chooses instead to go out with the fellas. I can sympathize with sick babies, laundry duties and work deadlines. I know all about stress headaches, sinus infections, pre-menstrual cramps, post-menstrual cramps, bad attitudes, weekly television show addictions, best friend emergency phone calls, science projects and every other excuse or actual reason that you may encounter not to grant your husband sexual gratification.
Yes, you do have a lot on your plate. Yes, you do have other things that you could be doing. Yes, they may be extremely important. Yes, it is late and yes, you do have to get up early. But the bottom line is, of your husband wants to have sex, there are only so many times you will be able to tell him no before he looks elsewhere.
Now, I'm not saying that he will cheat. As a matter of fact, I am praying against lustful temptations. But there comes a point in time of every Insane Wife's life where you have to decide if you want to finish the last macaroni sculpture for your daughter's first grade art show, or have some sex with your husband.
Ask yourself this question: "Is my husband my priority?"

Proverbs 24:27

"Do your planning and prepare your fields

BEFORE building your house."

 

Okay, you asked yourself that, now repeat after me: "It will be there when I get back."

I think I may just understand the business of life as much as the next person. However, I also understand that husbands have needs and they got married mostly because they thought they would be hacking a lot more sex than before. It is sadly disappointing when a person constantly shoot you down, but that's what we do to our husbands when we tell them we aren't in the mood for sex. We are telling them: "Yes I realize you are the head of my household and you have needs, but that lasagna pan in the sink requires my immediate attention and, right now, it is more important that you". I know that sounds kind of petty, but that's what our man hears when we tell him we aren't in the mood.

Your husband is part of your house. The scripture says to plan and prepare for your fields before you build your house. We have to make sure everything else we need is prepared for and taken care of so when it's time to take care of home (our husbands), we have no distractions.

I know that people say the divorce rate is high because of finances and lack of communication, but I honestly think it has a lot more to do with sex. Right before my husband and I separated, we were not having sex at all. When you take intimacy out of the equation, it removes the closeness that a husband and wife need to make it. When the intimacy leaves, it opens the door for arguing, wandering eyes and wandering body parts. Stay sexy, stay safe. I might make that my new motto.

If your husband is not on your list of things to do (pun intended), you should figure out what you can do to get him on it. I can't speak for everyone, but I can draw a direct line from me shooting down my husband's advances to his infidelity and our separation. Sex might be a choice to us, but to men, it's a need. And you don't want any other woman giving your husband what he needs to be getting from you.
Our husbands must be our priorities. If they are not, they are forgotten, and they will feel abandoned. As his wife, it's your job to make him feel like the most handsome, sexiest, satisfying man on the face of the Earth.

You might like it and if you do it right, it won't take that long. That's why God invented quickies...