Stop Fighting Dirty, Part 2

Sooo, the last time that we talked, we were talking about how we can let the bitterness of unforgiveness play an unhappy role in our lives and our marriages. This time, we're going to talk about how wrong our husbands can be sometimes.
There, that feels better, doesn't it?
Okay, maybe those men of ours don't do things wrong, as much as they don't do things the way that we would do them or like them done.
Or, maybe they do things wrong.
 Potato. Potato.
Anyhoo, sometimes its may seem as though your husband has been possessed by someone other than the person that you have grown to know and love. I know it seems that way to me. I can swear that I know him inside and out, then he does something that is so ridiculously out of character that I believe he is a stranger to me. He can say something that is so mean and hateful that I feel like a slap in the face would have hurt considerably less. When those times happen, if they happen, I need you to take a deep breath, take a step back and realize...
Its a trick.

Romans 12:21

"Do not let evil defeat you;

instead, conquer evil with good."(Good News Translation)\

You're not being tricked by your husband, its the devil that is doing the dirty fighting. 

He knows that, if he can try to hurt you through the man that you love most, it would shut you down. And that's where the fighting starts. Sometimes its fighting between you and your husband, sometimes it fighting within yourself, and all the time its fighting the urges you feel to hurt your husband in return.

It's a natural response. When someone hurts you, as a human being, we feel obligated to either defend ourselves or run away. When you husband seems like a stranger to you, its because something other than him is trying to drive a wedge between the two of you. Why? Because tampering with marriage is tampering with the family. And tampering with family is tampering with the health of everyone involved.

And that's what the devil does. Mess up stuff.

The best thing that you can do is not feed into the foolishness. Once you see it trying to pop up in your husband, shut it down and forgive immediately. Holding on to the hurt will only cause it to grow, like fungus. Have you ever thought about mold? It grows best in dark places. Same goes for bitterness. It grows on the inside where it can fester. But once you shed light on it, it shrivels and dies.

The same goes for life outside of mold.

Don't let the mess that tries to rear its ugly head consume you. Overcome the evil with the good and the good only comes from God. He is perfect in all his ways. So if you stay in Him, no evil can overtake you.

Take the high road, hunni. Don't fight back.

Le the light shine on it...