The Other Woman...

Sooo, I tend to stay away from the intimacy-related topics. My friends like to laugh at me because my husband and I have six children, but talking about sex makes me blush. I'm not good with the talking...

Doing is something altogether different.
Anyway, sex is something that is one of the perks to being married. Even though some of us had sex before we got married, once we dedicated our lives and bodies to our husbands before God, its fine now. Actually, encouraged may be a better word. Sexy time keeps you and your husband close, keeps tempers from flaring and is a nice way to burn a few calories.
I'm just saying...
But, after you have been married for a while, you have to find ways to keep each other interested. It's not all your responsibility; your husband has to keep his game current as well. But since this is a blog for wives, we're going to focus on us. In order to keep our husbands happy, ourselves happy and keep our marriages intact, sometimes we have to allow the other woman to take over.
No I'm not talking about a threesome, nasty. I'm talking about a woman who knows how to let her hair down and try new things. She doesn't care about bills and kids; she just wants to have fun. This woman likes to please your husband and likes to be pleased herself. She is free to be sensual, seductive and sexy.
This woman is you.
Girl please. Stop acting like you don't have an alter ego/freaky side! Even if its just a passing thought sometimes, at some point you need to free yourself. I mean, this is your husband. You said the words "til death" in your vows. That's a long time and some of those tricks that were daring on the honeymoon will eventually get old. We have to continue to grow, not just in maturity and in body, but in sexy too.

1 Corinthians 7:34

"...But a married woman is concerned 

about the affairs of this world-

how she can please her husband." (NIV)

People have gotten married and have become way too deep.

Why are you acting like a prude? Don't look at me like that. It's our job to keep our husband's attention.I'm sure you've heard the phrase "Lady in the street; freak in the sheets". As funny as it is, that's how wives should live their lives. The scripture says that, now that we are wives, we can't only be concerned with things outside of our marriages. Our interests are divided. We care for ourselves and everything else AND the man that we prayed and asked God to send us.
Yes, I am a Christian. And, yes, that does mean I left the things of the world behind. But does that mean that we are only limited to missionary positions in pitch black rooms?
Um. No.
The are so many things that you can do different. I could give you some tips, but I won't. The first thing that you can do is ask your husband. YES! Who better to ask than the other person included? Ask him what he likes and what he might want to try. Believe me, you might just have to shut him up. 

You have "affairs" to be concerned about. If you're like me, you separate every aspect of your life into a different compartment. Mom, student, daughter, minister, everything else... Wife. Every area has its own duties, every area has its own level of attention. So, just like my kids call me "Mommie" and my church calls me "Elder", my sexy side has her own identity. She's someone that can be free to do what it takes to please her husband. And I let her.

So find your inner sexy, hunni. It frees you to be you. Go ahead...

Let your husband meet the other woman...