He is Me...

Having problems understanding that man of yours? Does he do things or say things that make your head spin?

Relax, you aren't insane.

I say this a lot, and I'm going to keep saying it; men are different from women and not just physically. They think in a totally different way that us girls. That might be bad and it might be good, depends on how you look at it. I look at it as a good thing. I would never want to be with someone who thinks and acts exactly like me. 

That would really get on my nerves.

But there are ways that you can gain some insight into the mind of your man. Think about the last disagreement that you had that left your face hot and your attitude flare. There is one sure-fire way to understand his way of thinking as opposed to yours:

Become him.

Yup. I said it.
Since you know him so well, his mannerisms and his moods, his attitudes and his issues. You know your husband's schedule and his favorites. You of all people should be the last person in the world that is left at a loss concerning the things of your man. When he starts acting screwy, sit and think.
You may know more than you're giving yourself credit for.

Mark 10:8

" '...and the two are united into one.'

since they are no longer two,

but one..." (NLT)

When you and your husband were joined in marriage, you became one... Literally. 

You and your husband were two individual people that joined together to become one person. You weren't two halves of a person; it's two whole people that became one whole person. You are an extension of your husband, and your husband is an extension of you. No one should know you better than your husband. And no one should know your husband better than you.

So why is it that when he does something that you don't like or don't understand, you act like you have no idea who he is? You know better.

He is you! He's part of you. You know yourself, so you know him. God unified you both when you said "I do", and you are a part of each other. I'm not sure what you've heard, but there is no trick or secret to understanding your man. 

Think about it like this: you know how it feels when everything in your marriage is running smoothly. You and your husband aren't just married, but you're friends. You enjoy spending time together and everything is flowing right. Then, seemingly out of nowhere, your husband does something that hurts you and you shut down. When he tries to ask what he did wrong, you say "You know me well enough to know what you did. I shouldn't have to tell you..."

So you  know how frustrating that is?!? The same goes for you. You should know him well enough to know that, if something's wrong with him, you have the means to find out.

Step out of yourself and step into your husband's shoes.
Become him...