He's Not Him...

Reality shows have become my guilty pleasure. One new show has come out that features many of my favorite female R&B singers and I have become instantly intrigued. The behind-the-scenes lives of famous people has always interested me. One performer's life has been especially interesting to me because of the way that she interacted with her husband. On the show, they always appear together. Always. The other cast members are married, and their husbands make appearances in passing sometimes, but this man is always with his wife. No matter where they are or what's going on, her husband is always with her. Always. Upon further investigation, the singer revealed that she feels as though if her husband isn't with her, he must be unfaithful. So instead of risking infidelity, she keeps him close. Just in case. Always.
Because of what the last man did. 
*sigh*
Can I stress this point enough? You're husband is not the last man. If the last man beat you down, physically mentally or both, and you left him, that's the past. Let that sleeping dog lie, cheat, steal, whatever. Just let him stay in the past where you left him. You moved on and you're remarried. Its my prayer that the husband that you have now is nothing like the last man and he's adding to your life. You are a whole woman, you don't need anyone to complete you. That was the mistake that you made with the last man, and that's why it didn't work. You're different now; a new you.

2 Corinthians 5:17 
"This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun."(NLT) 

Don't make your husband suffer because of what the last man did. Not only is the last man in the past, but the woman you were when you were with him has passed as well. You're different now because you're in Christ. You have given your life freely to God, been made over, and are making your life with a fantabulous man that loves you and treats you well. Why make him suffer because of the last man's sins?
Girl, let it go. That joker that hurt you so bad, your body, emotions, credit, finances... 
You thought he had ruined your life, but he didn't.
You thought that you couldn't survive without him, but you are.
You thought you would never feel better, but you do.
You thought you would never find love again, but you did. And he's amazing. And he loves you.

You're still standing and your husband isn't him. He's the last man for a reason. Focus on the man that you have now. He's not him.