There's No ONE Answer...

I've always been a person that researches pretty much everything. I look up reviews on products before I purchase them. I read all the review on books before I buy them. Its not that the reviews are going to make my decision on any one subject final; Most times I have already made up my mind about my purchases. I just find the various opinions of others amusing and interesting.
The same goes for my relationship with my husband. 
I don't know very many married couples my age, so I take to Google Search and other social media outlets when I come up against something in this married life that I know close to nothing about. I blow up search engines, look up articles and read books until my vision goes blurry, trying to find someone who knows something about whatever it is I'm going through.
I find a lot of general info, but most times I come up empty.
This left me frustrated because I know I'm not the only thirty-something married woman that has issues with her husband. I can't be. Someone somewhere knows my struggle and understands my pain. 
Anyone? Anywhere?
*sigh*
So after sitting and contemplating, praying and seeking, searching and Googling, I've come up with an answer that may help, but then again it may not:
"There is no one answer..."
Marriage is like a fingerprint. Its unique to the person it belongs to. There is no one in this world like you, and no one in this world like your husband, so why would there be a specific answer to your question because you are the only 2 people involved? I found a lot of general answers because there is nothing new about my marriage that's never happened, but there is no relationship that is exactly like mine.

"What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun."
Ecclesiastes 1:9

Marriage has been around almost since the beginning. Adam and Eve did it first and there's been very little change since then. The answers you are looking for to the questions you may have are between you, your husband, and God, the creator of marriage. He's the only person that can give you marriage-specific direction in regard to your own marriage.
So put the books down, turn off the computer, grab your husband's hand and pray together. That's how things will change.
Otherwise, I'm sorry but, there's no ONE answer for you...