Eye Candy not Eyesore...

Have you ever taken the time to fly back over the memories of your marriage, all the way to the day that you met? I do that often. This particular time, I can remember when my husband and I were dating l. How I used to take the time to get ready to see him. Or when I knew he was coming to see me, I would take the time to make sure that I looked my best.
I made sure that I scrubbed every inch of my body. I didn't want any funk lingering around whatsoever.
I made sure that my hair was done; not a one out of place.
I made sure that my lip gloss was popping, my perfume was sweet but not too much, and my outfit was matching, clean and wrinkle free.
I would stand in the mirror for a few minutes and check myself from head to toe just to make sure that I saw what he liked to see.
I made sure that I looked good; and I did.
As I'm writing this I'm smiling because its been a while since I've been fly on a regular basis for my husband. It's funny but, then again, it's not.
Six children, laundry, cleaning, errands and cooking have stolen my "fly".
Sure, when it's time to go out, I'm presentable. This fly girl is in full effect. But on a regular basis?
Um... No.
My attire has gone from cute to comfortable. Sweat pants and t-shirts, along with my trusty wrap scarf is what greets my husband when he gets home, as opposed to the hour or so of preparation that I used to take when we were dating.
I just happened to walk past the mirror one day on my way to clean the tub and caught a glimpse of myself.
Gosh...
Do I look like someone that I would want to come home to after a hard day's work?
Sure, the laundry might be done, the house might be clean and dinner might be ready. But am I the picture of sexy that I was when he used to pick me up before? Absolutely not. Can't say that I am.
What happened you ask?

I got comfortable.

The duties of mother and wife began to trump the duties of sexy temptress. Obligation and quick took over and looks we're left behind.

I started to take my husband for granted.
The things you did to get that man are the things that you have to do to keep that man.
I'm not say that you have to walk around vacuuming in your freakum dress and stilettos. I'm not saying to scrub the toilet with a fully made up face. But you have to consider what you would want to see if you came home from work and saw you EVERY NIGHT...
Excuse me, but yuck.

Let's look to the Word, shall we?

"The wise woman builds her house,
but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down." (Proverbs 14:1 NIV)

So the question is, are we trying to be wise women or fools?
Let's look again...

"...and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband." (1 Corinthians 7:34 NIV)

Our husbands are a part of our households, and as wise women, we build them up. How you may ask? By pleasing him.
Not only by ironing his pants and sexing him up (lol), but also by thinking about what he may like.
No we can't change diapers and fry chicken in lingerie... At least, I would advise against it. But sometimes we can spiff ourselves up a little bit..
Now you might be thinking, "But he takes me for granted all the time! He never helps me with the kids and he never cleans. He barely takes a shower twice a week! Why should  I do it if he doesn't???"
Because you are trying to keep your marriage alive and thriving. Taking a shower and changing out of that holey t-shirt seems like a  small price to pay for a happy husband.
Jump in the shower, iron your jeans, take the rollers out of your hair, slap some lip gloss on and watch the smile on your husband's face when gets home. Remember: If you do the things you did to get that man and you'll keep that man.
Let me leave you with one last thought:
You may be the spine keeping the limbs of your family in line and the body standing tall, but make no mistake, your husband is the head. He is responsible for thinking an planning out your future. He may not contribute As much as the house needs to the actually upkeep. Or maybe he does. But you husband is truly a man with the weight of the world on his shoulders... Your world.

So don't take that man for granted. Its okay to get sexy for your husband.
Go 'head girl... Give him a little eye candy...