So I'm a Wife... So What?!?!

When you were standing in front of the pastor, judge, justice of the peace that performed your marriage vows, were you anticipating your reception? your wedding night? or your marriage???

Be honest.... I'll wait....

If we are honest with ourselves as women, when we agree to wed the man that we consider the "Love of our Life", our concerns aren't always on the duration of our marriage. We are anticipating our beautiful wedding, our hot reception and our even hotter wedding night. (Sorry if I offend...)

The reality of the situation is, we should plan more for our marriage than we do for our wedding day.
*We should research keeping our homes the way we research reception halls. 

*We should seek out the counsel of wise women that have been married for decades the way we seek   out experienced wedding planners. 

*We should anticipate pleasing our husbands the way we anticipate our wedding guests being pleased with our DJ at the reception.

*We should think about honoring God with our marriage covenant the way we think about the 2.5 children and dog that we think would go along with our house with the white picket fence. 

But for some reason, most of us don't.

That's why the first argument turns into the first altercation that progresses into the first night of sleeping separately that escalates into the front door slamming and someone walking out. 

We need to look and plan for the future of our marriage like we plan the future for our finances with our retirement funds and 401Ks.

Sooo, the wedding dress is off, the tuxes have gone back, the  cake has been eaten, the guests have gone home and the honeymoon is over. You're a wife... NOW WHAT?!?!

We all have issues, individually and together. Our husbands are human just like us. They have flaws and so do we. But if we take the focus off of what WE think our husbands are doing wrong, and focus on what WE can do to improve ourselves as wives, we will look up and our entire marriage relationship will look different. WHY? Because we can't "fix" our husbands, but we can ask God to show us where we are going wrong, to soften our hearts and our words toward our husbands, and work on together, not separate. Its not just you anymore, hunni. 

You're a wife now :)