But... But... But my butt!!!

 

"But he doesn't do this! But he doesn't say that! But he never did this! But he won't give me that!"

But... But... But my butt!

You are equally as responsible for our marriage as your husband is...

BOOM!

Have you ever thought about that? You aren't married by yourself and neither is your husband. You all are equal parts of the same covenant.

When things go right you can't take all the credit, so why should our husband take all of the blame when things go wrong?

Don't believe you have a hand in it? Let's look to the Word:

Genesis 2:18- "The Lord God said, " It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."

Still don't get it? Okay...

Responsibility #1: "Its not good for the man to be alone..."

Man's original purpose through Adam was to work. God gave you to your husband so that he wouldn't be alone when his work was done. You are his companion, his friend, his rest, his gift.

Responsibility #2: "I will make a helper suitable for him..."

God made your position as your husband's wife. It is your choice whether you will walk in your "suitability" or not.

Responsibility #3: "The Lord God said..." That should about do it. God established this marriage thing the way he wanted it to be. We are the ones that changed it. We have a responsibility to do things His way and not our own.

Our Heavenly Father created us with everything that we need to be our husband's suitable mate; his helpmeet. We might not know we have it, but it's all in there. You know your husband better than anyone else in the world; if you don't you have been put in the position to. You know what he likes and dislikes. When he wants company and when he needs to be left alone. When he wants help and when he can handle things on his own. If something is going wrong or if things aren't what you think they should be, don't complain (out loud or even in your thoughts). Take it to the Lord. No buts, no excuses. After you've prayed about it, take the time to make sure that you are living up to your suitability. Make sure you are being the wife to your husband that God made you for. And believe that God is doing the same in your husband.

After all, helpmeet doesn't mean you are authorized to make the necessary changes that you see need to be adjusted.

It means you help him meet needs. His and yours.

No buts....