I heard someone use this phrase while talking about running a productive business. The speaker was talking about how he built, expanded and an a multi-million dollar conglomerate for 10+ years without ever being in the red. Since I am endeavoring to advance the Insane Wives brand myself, this conversation perked up my ears.
Without going into too much detail, the speaker was talking about his board of directors and how they got along and made successful decisions. Realizing that everyone will not agree on everything all of the time, this man, as the President and CEO, decided that, instead of wasting time arguing over the things that they did not and could not seem to agree on, they focused on advancing the things that they did agree on.
And, since I am a firm believer that marriage is partially a business arrangement, this caused me to think about us and the things that we can do to improve the state of our marriages.
Amos 3:3
"Can two people walk together
without agreeing on the direction?"
No business will ever produce a good product or service if those on the board do not agree on how to produce or market the product. In the same way, no marriage will ever become long-lasting and full of love if you and your husband are in disagreement about everything. There is no reason to try and build a life with someone who has a totally different perspective on everything than you do. I don't care how handsome they are, or how rich they are, or how good their sex might be. But, seeing as how you may already be a wife, you can't just divorce your husband because you don't like the way he loads the dishwasher.
No, you really can't.
So let's bypass the things that we disagree with on for a moment and build up the things that we do actually agree on. We aren't going to ignore them, per se, but there's nothing wrong with a little back-burner action for a minute. Focusing on the things that can be productive first will actually keep you from wasting time arguing and being upset with one another. And let's face it, your husband is a problem solver. Start making long, drawn out speeches to plead your side of the case will not help the situation at all. Agree on it, start doing it, and move on.
Where do you and your husband work best together? Child-rearing? Finances? Dinner menus? Date nights? I don't believe that they topic of conversation really matters. But build from what works. Once you are able to better handle the good things, they might produce insight on how to rectify the bad ones...
No, you really can't.
So let's bypass the things that we disagree with on for a moment and build up the things that we do actually agree on. We aren't going to ignore them, per se, but there's nothing wrong with a little back-burner action for a minute. Focusing on the things that can be productive first will actually keep you from wasting time arguing and being upset with one another. And let's face it, your husband is a problem solver. Start making long, drawn out speeches to plead your side of the case will not help the situation at all. Agree on it, start doing it, and move on.
Where do you and your husband work best together? Child-rearing? Finances? Dinner menus? Date nights? I don't believe that they topic of conversation really matters. But build from what works. Once you are able to better handle the good things, they might produce insight on how to rectify the bad ones...
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EXCELLENT POST!!!!
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