The Perfect Marriage Model...

I have discovered the secret model to have the perfect marriage.
It is so simple, it has been sitting under our noses the whole time! You ready? Do you really want to know what the best example of marriage is???
CHURCH.
Now, when you stop laughing, we can move on.
Please understand what I am saying. The best model for marriage that we as married women and women who want to be married have is the church that God desires. I'm talking about the churches that we have come to know and tolerate now. Not the churches we see on TV or read about in novels, with greedy, adulterous ministers, gossiping ushers, back-stabbing first ladies and fornication children.
I am talking about the church the way God designed it to be.
The safe haven for the wounded and hurting. The place where unconditional love abounds, the Word of God is taught and men and women receive the healing, deliverance and ministry that they need. The church that impacts and changes the lives of those that are members and the lives of everyone and everything that surrounds it.
Now that's a church.

Ephesians 5:21-23

"Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.

For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body,

of which he is the Savior."

Let's skate past the submission for a minute to deal with verse 23 first. Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of it. He was born to pay the debt of the sins of the world on the Cross where He was crucified. God uses His church as an example of what He designed marriage to be.
-The husband is the head. He's the leader, fashioned after Jesus Christ.
-The wife is the bride, fashioned after the church.
It looks a little different now, eh? Let me help you a little more.
We are to submit to our husbands (our leaders) the way the church is to submit to Christ. We are to follow them and build them up. Our husbands are to provide for us and love us, the way Christ loves the church.
It may seem complicated, but its really not. Think about how dedicated (or not so dedicated) you are to your church. I'll use myself for an example. When I'm there, I'm taking care of the needs of my leaders, making sure the service begins on time, making sure it's clean, paying my tithes and offering so that it can run properly, telling people great things about it... I love my church, and I'm sure my leaders can tell. Do I do the same for my husband???
*crickets*
There shouldn't be silence. I should be able to answer with a loud "YES!" and runs shouting through the aisles, but sadly, most time I fall short. I have to constantly remind myself to reverence my husband the way I do the house of the Lord, and submit to them the way I submit to my leaders. It may seem hard at first, but it takes a simple (or not so simple) perspective change.
Don't beat yourself up about it, just look to the Lord and follow the model that He had for the church.
That's the way it's supposed to be...