Wishes are Like Tricks....

Think about being invited to a nice dinner party...
You take time to pick out a nice outfit, with matching shoes and bag. You get your hair done, find a babysitter, and prepare yourself for an evening of good food and adult conversation.
You arrive to the party, park your car, ring the doorbell and stand waiting for the evening that you have been waiting on all day, maybe all week. But when the door opens, it is not at all what you were expecting...
Streamers, clowns, candy, cupcakes... From the left to the right you see the party of children's dreams and adults' nightmares. And as you and the rest of the confused guests enter, you see the entertainment for the evening: a magician!
He's over behind his little magic table, pulling rabbits out of hats, making flowers appear out of his sleeve and making pigeons disappear. He's alakazaming and ta-daing all over the places. Doing tricks and promising wishes coming true.
How weird would that be?
That's the life that you live if you spend time wishing....
Wishing is so useless, but before you click to close this link, let me explain myself.
You sit and daydream about the perfect marriage and the perfect life. Perfect job, perfect children, perfect church. Everything is perfect, but it is only in your mind. When you open your eyes and come back to reality, you see the reality job, the reality children and the reality marriage. How does it compare?
It doesn't.

James 2:14, 17

"What good is it, my brothers and sisters,

If someone claims to have faith, but has no deeds?

Can such faith save them?

...In the same way, faith by itself,

If it is not accompanied by action,

Is dead."

You can sit around all day, wishing and hoping that the things in your life will improve, but if you do not do anything about it, do you really want things to get better? Even if things were to change by you doing absolutely nothing but wishing they changed, do you think that things would changed for the better or for the worst?
Let's look at it another way. If you were a car salesperson, you work at a car lot. You sit at your desk all day, wishing that you would sell a car, thinking up all of these new and fabulous sales techniques to get people to run to your particular dealership to buy a car from you. But, you never actually move away from your desk to make any of those wishes manifest.
You can have all the faith in the world. In fact, the bible says that without faith, we cannot please God (Hebrews 11:6). God wants us to believe Him for everything. However, when we believe God for the changes that we need in our lives, He will give us the tools and resources that He wants us to use in order to make those changes. He will begin the process of changing us, and He will begin the process in changing our husbands, so that our circumstances will change. But sitting around wishing and never moving won't change anything but the clock because we would be wasting time.
Also, let me add that praying isn't wishing, nor is it wasting time. When we pray and ask God to step into and cover our marriages, we are telling Him that we believe Him for the answers to the questions and we are waiting for Him to make a move. That way, we will be able to depend on Him more clearly, and hear Him when He gives us direction.
Sure, you should have aspirations and goals for your marriage, and yes, you should even have a vision of what you want the Lord to do. But don't sit around and wish.
Wishes are like tricks, and, as the rabbit says, those are for kids...