From Break Up List, to Make Up List

A few days ago, I opened the Twitter app on my phone to review notifications that I received. A few mentions, couple of retweets and a direct message or two, I came across a new follower alert from someone called, @BreakUpList. This caught my eye big time. Upon clicking on the Tweeter's profile page, I learned that this person decided to create a list of things that they wanted to do, but never got around to, because they were in a relationship.
Fascinating....
This list includes quite a few random objectives, including number 171, which is "go to a live auction" or number 155, "ride in a police car". That one caused me to pause. But when I recovered, my mind drifted to the use of this concept in marriage.
I call it, "The Make Up List".
We know that we have no intention on breaking up with our husbands. "To death do us part" is the motto we are living our marriages by. But, that doesn't mean that we don't have disagreements along the way.

Proverbs 27:1

"Do not brag about tomorrow,

Since you don't know what the day will bring."

 

We have do choose to stay active in our marriages, because everything that's dead needs to be buried. We want out relationships with our husbands to thrive! We can't choose to dwell on the mistakes that we make on any given day of any given year. Things happen, and we should move on and not dwell on that stuff. That can also go the other way as well; don't be so lost in the honeymoon stages of your marriage (because most likely you will have more than one), that you lose sight of everything else around you. That way, you will be able to see issues rising, and be better prepared to conquer them when confronted.

But anyway, back to my Make Up List.

When those issues come, and they will come, and they are conquered, celebrate. Don't spend too much time dwelling on the bad things or the rough patches. Positive attitude go a long way to change the dynamic of a relationship. Take joy in the fact that another fiery dart of the enemy bites the dust. I just had an anniversary. I'm not harping on all of the negative aspects of the years past. I was just happy to see another year as Mrs. Luckett. So spend some time making up things that you want to do with your spouse that you couldn't have done if you had broken up. You can include anything on it, as long as you are doing it together. Here are some suggestions:

-Have a moonlit picnic

-Run a marathon and finish together
-Spend the entire day together in bed

-Take a cooking class together

-Kiss under a waterfall

I would say, maybe keep @BreakUpList's number 155 off your list, unless you and your boo are into that kind of thing.

We live in a time where the bad is always magnified. Make the good outweigh the bad in your marriage. Let's celebrate some victories...