Just Say No!

I try to keep the Insane Wife topics light. Marriage can be so stressful and serious, its just a relief to see the issues we share as wives in positive and lighthearted way. But the truth is, marriage is serious business and everything cannot be laughed off.
Like divorce.
I don't like to talk about it, not because I live in a fantasy world where divorce doesn't exist. I just never see divorce as an option. Once I got married, I considered myself a wife for life. Come hell or high water, me and the mister were going to make it through, because we were together. God pit us together, and the scripture says if He put us together, nothing and no one can break us up.
Right???
Things happen. Life happens. Time marches on and circumstances occur. Babies, wrinkles, muffin tops, bald spots... and that's just on the surface. People change on the inside in the exact same ways that they change on the outside. There has to be change in the world. It just does. But the trick is to grow together, not apart.

Malachi 2:16

" 'For I hate divorce,'

says the Lord, The God of Israel.

'To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty,'

Says the Lord of Heaven's Armies.

'So guard your heart;

Do not be unfaithful to your wife.' "

God doesn't hate too many things. He is the God of love and He is love. But divorce is anti-love.
When you and your husband marry, you are two people that become one under a promise of God. You are still two individuals, but you become one flesh, in heart and body. And because of that promise, or covenant, you are fused together. When you and/or your husband decide that you no longer want to be married, that doesn't change the way God sees your relationship.
So, separation and divorce is the ripping apart of something that God fused together. That's why it hurts and its so hard. You are tearing away from each other.
Its a bitter pill to swallow, and I no that it happens. But my point is, try and do everything you can to not allow the spirit of divorce to squeeze in between you and your husband. Now, I'm not expert, but please allow me to give you a few suggestions on how to keep separation and divorce out of the picture:
1. Keep the lines of communication as open as you can. Talk often and about everything.
2. Don't just talk. Listen. Actually hear what your husband is saying to you. He needs to know that you respect his words and his heart.
3. Date. Spend time together, just having fun and enjoying each other's company.
4. Kiss often. From the smooches down to the real deal. It keeps you hot for each other. Which brings me to...
5. Have sex. Good sex, lots of sex, quick sex, sexy sex, love making. Take advantage of not being able to keep your hands off of each other. This is another way the "2 become 1".
6. Laugh. Laugh at each other and with each other. It is definitely medicine.

Remember, we are trying to be women that please the Lord in every way. If our Father hates divorce, we need to avoid it at all costs. Say yes to love, marriage and your husband. But to divorce...
Just say no...