It's Getting Kinda Hectic...

My marriage had some really real challenges really early on. My husband and I had to overcome some really deep issues within the first six years of our marriage. It seems like, almost from day one, we had drama after drama. Everyday there was something new. From financial difficulty to employment issues, to four pregnancies and car repossessions, to eviction and separation. And this isn't even everything! Add post partum depression to the party and we were having a ball!

Yeah, I know...

 Most people don't encounter the issues that my husband and I have within a lifetime of marriage, let alone in the first few years. Sooo, while all of these things were going on, the ups and the downs, my emotions were on a roller coaster as well. I was extremely unstable, because my environment were unstable. I would go days without speaking, even to my husband. I wasn't going to church or talking to friends. I wasn't doing anything but dwelling on the problems that I was facing. And to make matters worse, so was my husband. We weren't leaning on each other, so we made everything worse. We both knew the way we wanted our marriage to go,and it wasn't going the way we wanted it to. We were focusing on the wrong things.

Philippians 4:12-13, 19

"I've learned by now to be quite content whatever the circumstances.

I'm just as happy with little as with much, with much as with little.

I've fount the recipe for being happy

whether full or hungry,

hands full or hands empty.

Whatever I have, wherever I am, I can make it through anything

in the One who makes me who I am...

You can be sure that God will take care of everything you need, 

His generosity exceeding even yours in the glory that pours out from Jesus." (The Message)

It is so easy to get caught up in what is going on in our lives. Look at the things we were going through. Major stuff up there, people! But there are two things that I want you to remember when you and your husband come up against some major things in your life:

~You can lean on each other. When you have stuff going on, you have a live-in best friend. Your husband is there for you, and he's interested. I thought that my hubby could care less about what I was going through, but that was my opinion. He cared a lot. And I wasted so many tears and so much time carrying around these problems when I could have shared the load with him from the beginning.

~You can lean on God. He can change every situation faster than you can even pray about it. 

I had to lean how to adapt to have joy no matter what the situation. We had lack for so long, it became expected. But when your marriage and your life is a living example of faith in God. When you are standing on that faith, your issues aren't yours, they're His. So you can be free to be happy and know that He will take care of it all.
God doesn't want us to have stress; it portrays a lack of faith. It shows Him that, we don't trust Him to work things out, we want to do is ourselves.

How's that working out for you?
Whether you and your husband are rich or poor, live in a mansion or the projects, drive a Bentley or a bucket, be content. It may seem hectic for a while, like you are working for nothing, barely paying bills and at each other's throats. Smile, laugh together and love each other, no matter what. Stand with him and stay there. For every trial that you have, love each other that much harder. Stick it out.
Better is coming.