Love & In Love... Which One Are You???

So, I've been thinking a lot about divorce lately. Not for any particular reason, but the concept is very interesting to me. Two people that pledged their eternal and undying love for each other somehow move from infatuation to hatred in the matter of a few short years. The most common reason for this is "irreconcilable differences".
What does that even mean?
Well, it means just what it sounds like; reasons that could not be reconciled. Somewhere between the "I do" and the bang of the judge's gavel, something happened that was not addressed. Was it that it could not be addressed? Of course not. The bottom line is, divorce occurs because the man and woman that got married decided that they didn't want to be married anymore.
They grew apart.
They couldn't find each other.
They fell out of love.
Or did they...
The word "love" is described as a "profoundly tender, passionate affection" and "a feeling of warm, personal attachment". Love is personal and its a feeling. Its an emotion. It is a choice. It can be conditional or unconditional, all depending on the person that it feeling the emotion.
Being "in love" is the conditional. Its the part of the emotion that is comes and goes. The level of "in love" that we are depends on the time and energy we are given and give to the object of our affections.
Bottom, love is a reaction; being in love is a choice. We chose to accept our husband's proposal, we chose to get married and we choose to stay in love. We can love our men because we appreciate what they do. Whether they work hard or don't work, whether they help out around the house or not. We are called to love everyone, regardless of their actions.

1 Peter 4:8

"Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins."

 Being in love is something that takes some sort of effort.
I love chocolate cake, but you don't see me putting a tux on it and walking it down the aisle.
The Word of the Lord says that we are to love each other deeply. That doesn't mean that we have to be in love with everyone, but it does mean that we have to love each other a certain way. Why not start with our husbands? Falling in and out of love over the course of a marriage seems possible, but not something that should be dwelt upon. If we spend the majority of the time focusing on the love that we have for our husbands and trying to progress it, instead of the negative things that we see and feel and magnifying those, love will abound.
So, it doesn't really matter if you are in love with your husband or just love your husband. The question is whether nor not you are dedicated to your husband and your marriage.
Everything else will fall into place...