My Super Invisibility Cloak

I am a fan of all types of books and a few years ago I took the time to read the entire Harry Potter series. I don't remember too much about the books in general, but I do remember that he was given an invisibility cloak that belonged to his father. This concept was one thing that stuck out and, while I was thinking about what to talk with you all about, I thought about that. My mind makes connections in odd ways sometimes, but it always gets the job done. With that being said, sometimes I feel as though I have been blessed, and cursed, with an invisibility cloak.

Allow me to explain.

My husband is an extremely hardworking person. I call him a hustler. He gets up faithfully 6 days a week and works 10 hours a day. Most days, after work, he goes and does extra work until late at night. When he is not working, he is seeing about his family or working security at our home church. And when he isn't doing any of those things, he's usually out with his friends. And when he isn't doing any of those things, he's asleep.
Did you notice that there was something missing in my list of his activities?
Yeah I did too...

This is where my invisibility cloak comes in.

While he goes through his many daily and weekly activities, I am usually waiting on the sidelines, cheering him on, but still waiting to be noticed. He has so many ambitions and so many goals that he has set for himself that he is extremely focused on getting where he wants to be so we can all be well taken care of. My husband is an awesome provider, but sometimes that where his mind is.... CONSTANTLY. He doesn't have a multi-tasking bone in his body. If I didn't trust him and know with all my heart that he loves me, I would be an extremely insecure woman.

Seriously, the only rational explanation for overlooking a fine, female specimen such as myself is that I must be wearing an invisibility cloak... Right???

 I would do everything in my power to get my husband's attention: his favorite dinners, movie nights, sexy outfits... Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn't. Sometimes he spent time with me, but I felt as though it wasn't enough. Sometimes I would go weeks with no time at all. I went through emotions that ranged from frustration to anger to rage to fear to sadness. It wasn't that I was totally right for feeling the way that I felt, or that my husband was totally right for focusing on provision and neglecting our time together. The issue was that we were both creating an environment for an unhealthy trend to begin in our relationship.

Romans 8:28
"And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose. 
1 Peter 5:7

"Casting all your cares upon Him, for He cares for you."

While praying about this situation over and over and over, these scriptures really help settle my spirit and put my mind at ease. They may seem extremely general and applicable to other situations, but they really helped me. 

Firstly, I realized that because this area of my marriage was disturbing me, I knew that God cared about it as well. He cares about everything that we care about. Even the scripture that refers to God caring about the birds of the air and what they eat, He cares even more about us because we are made in His image. We are His children. 

Also, because I loved God and do everything that I can to serve Him, I can be confident that everything will work out; In His time and in His will. Its up to me to pray about it, do my part in not making things worse, and wait for Him to come through. There are so many times in our marriages that we, as the support system and the keeper of the households, try to solve things. We see problems and instead of bothering others with them, that we fix them ourselves. But God is in everything and cares about everything. 

EVERYTHING.

Not just what we feel like is important enough to pray about. 

If you are having problems with your husband, take the time to talk to him, not fuss and nag, and let him know how you feel. But also pray about it and ask the Lord to open your husband's heart, but also do things to improve the situation rather than hinder any progress that can be made.

So for now, I might still have on my invisibility cloak from time to time where my husband is concerned. But I know that I am not invisible to my God.

You're important to Him too...