Fight Naked...

Now we get to what's really interesting.
No, you don't need to clean your glasses or rub your eyes, and yes, you are reading this right.
And no, it's not the newest reality craze, but it should indeed be taking marriages by storm.
If you're anything like I am, when my husband comes for me and my feelings, the first thing I'm trying to do it become as least vulnerable as possible. If I'm getting dressed, I dress faster. If I'm in the shower, I cut that joker short and get out of there. Even if I'm fully dressed, I usually cover myself with a pillow. It's not that I'm crazy (well, not for this reason anyway), but it's because it is a natural reaction that I have to shield myself from hurt.
It's not bullet proof but, don't judge...
I have to cover myself! Marital conflict can get very real very fast. Usually one person is talking and the other is super busy waiting on their next turn to talk, not listening at all, and mostly not getting anything accomplished. Before you know it, you're slinging insults and talking about each other's mothers and saying really mean stuff. That's the way it goes. It's not right at all, but it's real.
But could you imagine arguing with your husband naked?
Chile...

James 5:16

"Confess your sins to each other and

Pray for each other so that you may be healed."

 

 

Besides the fact that I would be ridiculously distracted, there a few other reasons why this needs to be implemented into your marriage's communication system post haste.

1. It reminds you that you aren't perfect- When I have to be uncovered, I am insanely aware of how imperfect my body is. And, it feels magnified when someone else is present, mainly that husbandman. But it should also remind you that he loves for who you are, the way you are. If that's no a self-esteem booster, I'm not sue what is.

2. It keeps the issues on task- Who has time to sit around naked all day? Especially if you have children. We got things to do! Eventually this argument must come to an end, and if you cannot get dressed until it does, then it becomes more efficient.

3. It makes the make up sex easier to start- There's already nothing there so, why not???

 

If we choose to argue naked, it symbolizes the true meaning of being transparent. There should be nothing to hide in your marriage anyway and this is just a way of sealing that deal. When we do something wrong or we disagree, our husbands and I have to work it out, and it should be done expeditiously. The longer we hold on to issues that arise without addressing them, the easier it is to become resentful and bitter. Those little bugs take a lot longer to get out than they do to get in. Discussing these things is the beginning process of healing. Prayer is the second part, and working on it is the third part, but you can't finish until you begin.

In order to be healed from things, we have to acknowledge them or confess them. You can't work on something by acting like its not there or brushing it o like it's no big deal. Doing it in the nude is just a way of saying "I'm withholding nothing from you. I trust you completely. Let's work it out."And it may not work all the time, but it may. You will never know unto you try.

It's not a ploy or a game, its a real life suggestion. Try it, at least once. If you and your husband are having "heated "fellowship" and he starts raising his voice, just go to your bedroom and tell him to get naked.

That will usually be the end of it...



Make a List... Keep Checking That Bad Boy... (#WifeWorthy Diaries)

When its Christmas time, children (and some adults) get into a list making mood. They start stacking up toy catalogs and DVRing their favorite shows. Not for the shows themselves, but more for the commercials that show the latest and greatest video games and whatever toys have the best bells and loudest whistles. And the teenagers? Forget about that. My daughters ask for everything from money to debit cards to new phones and phone cases and even phone jewelry...
Why does a phone need jewelry, anyway????
Now, I've never been good with lists. I'll make them, then lose them. LOL. But I know that as single women, many of you may have lists about the type of man that you want. It may include most, if not all of your desires; height, weight, age, income, credit score, family values, favorite foods and colors, even *ahem* personal endowment.
It's okay to get specific, ladies.
However, I would like to point out that, while you are gaining inspiration everywhere to add things to your shopping list of a "man du jour", please don't forget about another list that needs attention and you may have left to grow dusty on the shelf...
It's "Self-Checklist Time"...

Galatians 3: 4 & 5

"Pay careful attention to your own work,

For then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done,

And you won't need to compare yourself to anyone else.

For we are each responsible for our own conduct."

 

Sometimes we can get so wrapped up in biological clocks and the engagements and weddings of our close friends and family members that we focus our attention on finding the right man that wants to bend his knee in front of us. But, while we are making our lists and checking them twice (or thrice), we need to be writing out a list of things that we ourselves need to change, obtain and achieve.
Think about it; you have pages and pages of things that you want and are asking God for in a husband. Okay. But what about the fact that you are endeavoring to be someone's wife? What about the man that God designed to be the head of your household and lead your family? Doesn't he have specifications? And while God is using this time as a single woman to make and mold him to be exactly what you need, He is doing the same to you, but you have to refocus.

For the mean time, set the man list aside. Stop looking around, side to side and even sometimes behind you to see every available man that walks by. God won't let your eggs dry up. You will be able to wear the wedding dress instead of always the bridesmaid. But instead of looking at who is not in your life, look at who is.

You.

Use some of that good ink and write down some things that God may want to do in your life. And be honest; it's just you and God on the notepad. No reason to stretch the truth or hold back. Don't know what you want to change? Ask the Lord to reveal some things to you. Let me just throw a few suggestions out there to get this ball rolling:

 

-Do you have any anger issues?

-Are you messy? Disorganized?

-Do you know how to cook? At least a few meals?

-Are you in shape or maybe a skosh unhealthy?

-Do you have any habits that you would like to break?

-Do you pray on regular basis? Not just before meals?

 Some of these things might seem trivial to you, but they were some of the items that I needed to work on in myself before God could send me the husband that was meant for me. I had to do a lot of self-examination. It was most definitely difficult and a lot of times I put the pen and paper down and had to let some tears fall. All of us have a little crazy down on the inside. It's okay. But at some point, the little idiosyncrasies that you have become used to in yourself may begin to get on your nerves. That's God's way of saying: "Hey, you! We need to get this in order before so your man won't talk about it later!"

So take heart, my love. While Go is getting the man of your List together for you, He's also getting you together for him.

You are the subject of someone's wish list too...

Come Celebrate with the Insane Wives this weekend...

This Saturday is very special to the Insane Wives.

We are celebrating our inaugural book release with a

Book signing and celebration!
If you live or will be in the Chicago area this weekend,

Specifically Saturday at 5pm,

Please join us!
We will be at Spreading the Word Worship Center,

Located at 2728 East 79th Street in Chicago, IL.

Come and network, enjoy light refreshments

And get the new book,

"Encouraging Words for an Insane Wives",

For the introductory price of $10.

 

You can register on EventBrite by clicking this link.

 

If you have any questions, please feel free to email us at

insanewives@live.com

 

I look forward to seeing you all there...