Be What You Want...

So I listen to a lot of single women talk. Out of the few people in the world that I love enough to call "friends" 20% are single. So I listen to a lot of stories about how there are no good available and how, of the men that are actually "available", they don't want to "waste their time" and making them into the man that they need.
Since I'm not the advice giving-type, all I do is smile and nod.
I am of the opinion that no one is responsible for "making" another person into the marrying type. Either you love them enough to want to marry them or you dislike their flaws enough to leave them alone. Trying to make a person into someone that you want them to be is controlling, plain and simple. Any form of manipulation to achieve what you want is mind control and isn't of God.
Let's be real. We all know how to dip a little lower and smile a little sweeter when we want our husbands to do something for us. That's not what I'm talking about. I mean, when you intentionally try to change a person's character and personality to be more fitting for your lifestyle, that's not only wrong, but the Bible calls it witchcraft.
I don't want to burst your bubble, but we may be having this conversation a bit too late. It seems to me that, sometimes, we wives wait a little too late to decide to pay attention to the characteristics that are a part of the men we call our husbands. We think that, after the trip down the aisle or into the judge's chambers, someone in the heavenlies waves a correction wand, transforming the men we love into what we want.
Sike!
In all honesty, you need to be concerned about yourself and your own characteristics, not your husbands. Let's talk about your flaws...
No? Okay, I'll talk about mine...
I need to tighten up my communication skills, or the lack thereof. I could do laundry a little more frequently. I can be more creative in the cooking department. I can learn how to make better use of my inside voice. I could take the time to actually listen to the things that my husband says, instead of analyzing the tone and the potential underlying meaning between the lines.My unconditional game could use a little stepping up. I could take more time to look nice for my man, despite my continuous state of fatigue. I could be a little nicer, whisper a little sweeter, love a little harder...
You catching my drift? I have flaws.
I know it seems easier to focus on the many things that may be wrong with my husband, but pointing the finger never got anyone anywhere ever. At least, not if you want things to progress and flourish. If you take a look at yourself and come up flaw-empty, I'm going to need you to either look a little harder and go a little deeper, or ask God to show you where you're lacking. Sorry to be the one to tell you hunni, but you arent perfect.

2 Timothy 4:7

"I have fought the good fight, I have finished the course, I have kept the faith;"

You're responsible for you. If your husband wants to be a clown, let him perform alone. You have to become the type of mate that you want to have. God will get your hubby together, but its not for you to be concerned about his progress. Keep running, keep fighting, keep going. All you can worry about is you. And if you're anything like me, you have a lot of focusing to do.

You deserve to be a champion. You want a champion. Become a champion....