It's All About You

"Everything isn't about you"...

This is a phrase that my husband has said to me many times. I find it difficult to understand him saying it to me because I consider myself one of the most unselfish people on Earth. I usually think of myself last in my everyday life. My children's needs, my husband's, my ministry, my job... I put everything else before the needs of my own. Nothing in my life seems to be about me...
And that's the problem.
My husband was correct to an extent. EVERYTHING isn't about me. 
But some things should be about me. 
You have to take time for yourself when you are a wife. Most times, being a wife is just another extension of who you are. Its an addition. You were you when you were born; that was automatic. But soon after birth, immediately actually, you became someone's daughter, and maybe someone's sister. Shortly after you are someone's cousin, niece, neighbor, friend, student.. And the extensions just keep on coming. Eventually you became a wife to your husband and that split some of you again. When does it end? you have so many other people pulling you in different directions, different tasks to complete, different places to be, different people to take care of. 
At some point you have to stop the world around you and take some time to take are of you. You have to be you no matter what is going on around you. Your husband and your family needs you, yes. But if you are no in the best health and state of mind that you can be in, will you really be any good to anyone?

3 John 1:2

  "Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well." (NIV)

Our Heavenly Father doesn't just care about us when we are in church or doing ministry. He cares about every part of us. We can't do what He has purposed for our lives if we aren't taking care of ourselves. We have to be in our best minds, bodies, souls and spirits in order to be the best wives that we can be. 

So no, everything is not about me. But sometimes, things need to be....

My Husband Isn't My Best Friend...

 "My husband isn't my best friend..."

This is the last time you will hear me use this statement.
Me and the hubs don't have too much in common. We don't like the same movies, same music, same type of foods. We don't agree on dinner selections and have extremely different style of dress. We don't have the same kinds of friends, don't go to the same types of restaurants, and have very different ideas of how our home should be decorated.
Very rarely do my husband and I share the happenings of the day with each other at night. We don't talk about politics or the events in the news with each other. Not too often do we talk about anything that we have in common, mostly because we don't have too much in common.
We are the epitome of the phrase "opposites attract". Our relationship began in a very physical fashion, and we never really progressed from that. We didn't live together before we got married and when we did get married we had children right away. I never got a chance to show him who I am, and I never saw him for who he is.
So once we got married, it kind of felt like someone threw two perfect strangers in the same room and locked the door.
Craziness...
I sometimes get jealous when I see couples that share everything and laugh with each other; married people that are really, REALLY friends. My husband and I really seem kind of awkward around each other, but I'm believing God that how it is now isn't how it's always going to be.

Romans 4:17
"(As it is written, I have made thee a father of many nations,) before him whom he believed, even God, who quicken the dead, and call those things which be not as though they were."

 God can do anything. He can make an elderly man the father of nations (Abraham), He can raise the dead, and He can call anything into existence. Our Father in heaven provides us with food, shelter, and, if we obey Him, with the desires of our hearts. If your marriage is a desire of your heart, He would be more than happy to grant the things you want to see in it to you, if it is His divine will.
God honors marriage and loves me, He cares about what I care about. So he cares about my relationship with my husband too. Because I care about it.
So I know that at this moment, my husband may not be my best friend. But one day soon, he will be. Your husband may be your best friend. Maybe he was and he hasn't been lately. Maybe he never really was. Keep speaking the things you can't see with faith, until they become things that you can see...